Strap On Fantasies: Why So Many Women Crave the Power to Penetrate
Phantom Dicks, Power Play, and Why Strap Ons Are for Everyone
"Somewhere, Freud smiles."
"I don't know if it's a kink or just… something primal."
"I've had dick envy for a lifetime."
"Even humping, like a dog — it's about dominance."
If any of these thoughts feel oddly familiar — you're not alone.
Whether it's phantom erections, cock envy, or the urge to penetrate with something you don't physically have, it's more common than you might think. And no, it doesn't necessarily mean you're trans, or masculine, or even into pegging. Sometimes, it's about curiosity. Sometimes it's about power. Sometimes it's just... horny chaos.
So what's going on?
Sexual psychology doesn't always follow gender norms or anatomy. Many women (and people with vulvas) report a kind of "phantom cock" feeling — as if there's an invisible penis that wants to be stroked, sucked, or used to penetrate. No surgery, no dysphoria — just a sensation and a craving.
Others describe it as "dick envy," not in a jealous way, but in a desire to experience the act of being the one who enters, who thrusts, who dominates.
And that's where strap on sex toys come in.
Why Strap Ons Hit Just Right
Strap ons aren't just for queer couples or pegging pros. They're a way to explore roles, sensations, and fantasies that don't fit into the "traditional" mold.
Whether you want to:
- Try strap on sex with your partner and take the lead,
- Explore dominance/submission without switching genders,
- Experience the thrill of "owning" a cock for the night,
- Or just finally live out those phantom dick urges…
A strap on with dildo can be surprisingly empowering — and ridiculously hot.
Some even say that just the act of wearing one boosts confidence, enhances control, and lets them tap into a version of themselves that feels realer in the bedroom.
Getting Started: What to Look For
Not all sex straps are created equal. If you're new, start with something that feels comfortable and flexible:
- Beginner-friendly harnesses – adjustable, soft, and body-safe
- Strap on kits – includes harness + dildo (sometimes with vibration!)
- Strapless strap ons – internal bulb for the wearer = double fun
- Real-feel materials – for a more lifelike experience
You can check out our curated collection of strap on sex toys here — all discreetly shipped, of course.
TL;DR?
Sexual curiosity is normal. Phantom dick feelings are valid. Dominance is sexy.
And strap ons aren't just toys — they're tools for self-expression, connection, and absolutely unforgettable orgasms.
