Before you take off that condom
Don't.
The person you're having sex with isn't just a vessel for your pleasure. They are a person who has consented to sex with protection. Once you betray that understanding, the act is no longer consensual.
Every single one of my friends have experienced stealthing and I just want to understand how can men can be so callous. You're risking your health and the health of your partners just cause it doesn't feel as good? A moment of satisfaction for you while she feels a gut-wrenching panic, the anxious reach with every future partner just in case they decide to be as selfish as you?
Please, be responsible. Whether it's a one night stand or a relationship, every person you sleep with deserves to feel safe.
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My partners have always been completely respectful when we decide to use condoms. My heart goes out to anyone who has experienced this. It's so fucking terrifying to think about. Jesus
Also, don't lie about getting STD tested. I had a boyfriend do this to me and only found out, like, a year later, when he got a pimple on his dick and freaked out that it might be something. I told this story to another guy I started dating and he got tested and proudly showed me proof of the results afterward. I didn't ask him to do that, he just thought I might appreciate it after having been duped. That guy is my husband now. Turns out it's actually really easy to just be a good, decent person! Don't let anyone gaslight you into thinking otherwise.
I totally was reading this in such a naïve way. I thought you meant taking it off AFTER finishing. I was thinking that yeah, a moment of cuddling or something instead of rushing to get rid of the condom and clean up. Do people actually do this? Wow, I just can't even imagine that level of selfishness. Or stupidity, I'd definitely consider any amount of physical retribution as acceptable to get out of this situation. I'd try to rare back and kick them in the balls, if only to assure that they would lose their boner and give time to escape. At what point is that rape? You consented to sex within certain parameters, such as it being done with protection. Just because I wanted to have sex with you doesn't mean you can suddenly change that!
A guy stealthed me right after I graduated high school. First guy I dated in college. And he gave me chlamydia. I had a really difficult relationship with sex and my body for a looooong time after that. I still feel violated. Ruined.
