Could we please stop saying that men are sex-hungry animals that would

Could we please stop saying that men are sex-hungry animals that would fuck anything that moves?

Oct 11, 2025

cuipingcheng

Obviously, this message is very damaging for men themselves, but it's also damaging towards women. This message damaged me when I was younger.

I internalized that 99% of guys would want to fuck me, a lot, all of the time. I would never leave a party alone. I wouldn't have to do any work in the courtship process. Men don't really have types like we do, they would want anything and everyone. Any man would have a much higher sex drive than me. Etc, etc.

So when my boyfriend wasn't in the mood, didn't get a raging boner when I changed in front of him, if a guy at a party didn't want to make out or have sex (which would be true for the vast, vast majority of guys, I'm not everyone's type)... I felt disgusting, repulsive, unattractive. Because all guys want sex with all women all the time, right? If he doesn't, it must mean you're really ugly.

Stop.

Edit: a lot of you have pointed out how this stereotype also hurts men. This is very true and valid. It hurts both sexes, arguably it hurts men much more (sexual assault of men not getting taken seriously, performance anxiety, etc). Mine is just one angle/perspective on a really big picture about a social attitude. I'm sorry if I made it seem like the biggest issue with this is my fragile ego. I didn't want to diminish men's issues.

Top Comments:

For a long time, I didn't understand why it would hurt my self esteem so much when my boyfriend didn't want to have sex. I was raised to believe that men were sex-crazed and couldn't control themselves. Also was always told that my partner's sex drive would be higher than mine and it would be my responsibility to "fulfill his needs". Funny thing is, my sex drive has always been 10x higher than any man I've dated.

I could quote your entire comment in agreement. The idea that men are so much more sexually wired has set me up for huge and damaging devastation in my current marriage. My husband is a "eh, every other week or so is great" kinda guy and during the in between times, I feel like a bridge troll.

Never understood it either. When I finish my sex drive is completely gone but when my girlfriend finishes, sometimes her sex drive is even higher than when we began!!!

Really. Its amazing how often I see a post where a guy didnt get hard from a touch or a kiss and then woman is like "is he gay?" "Is he not attracted to me?" Men arent mindless sex machines. Can we add to that, they like to be made to feel attractive and desired too.