Girlfriend wants it badly and only when she’s ovulating
I'm a 22 Male with a pretty high sex drive, and she's 22 low drive. I'm almost daily in the mood but she never wants to do it. On times that i try suggesting she brushes it off and even said "sometimes it feels like sex is the only thing that you want". But when it's the time around her ovulation cycle she gets really horny and we have really amazing sex… But I only found out recently that it only happens around her ovulation, otherwise she hates any form of sexual contact with me. And now i can't help but feel like she only wants sexual intimacy with me while she's ovulating and it's her hormones that makes her feel like she wants me.. and this has seriously started affecting our relationship…
How can we fix things between us?
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It's all a matter of hormones. Also for you bro.
it's her hormones that makes her feel like she wants me. Hate to tell you this, but its hormones all the way down. That goes for you as well, though
It's always hormones, for men and women alike. You could potentially fix things if she's open to it; lifestyle changes can increase sex drive and such. However, it's equally as likely that she has a low sex drive which is absolutely fine but it's also perfectly valid to end an unfulfilling relationship due to sexual incompatibility so it's entirely up you really. You can see if lifestyle changes increase her sex drive again, only if she's ok with that or you need to decide if you're ok with not being as sexually active as you'd like. Either way, both you and your girlfriend's feelings about it are equally as valid so don't let her pin everything on you for having a higher sex drive than her.
I always hate how these conversations get framed as "she can/should learn how to increase her sex drive" when "you should learn to be okay with no and take care of your needs yourself" is just as equally applicable under that logic. i say this as the higher libido partner in my relationship. really neither partner should have to sacrifice or change when neither is in the wrong. differences in libido that cause distress or upset or building resentment are fundamental incompatibilities and signal that a breakup may not be a bad idea.
