I said no and it went better than I expected
I never say no to sex, or to giving head, not because I'm in an abusive relationship or anything, but because im just as horny, if not more, than my bf, so I'm more than happy to get it on.
So earlier today, i was Not Feeling It. I woke up with a pounding headache and my nose clogged up. I was in a bad mood all day and all i wanted was to sleep when i got home. But my bf surprised me by picking me up from work and buying me lunch. We decided to stop by an adult store to buy some lube and see if anything else there tickled our fancy. We ended up buying a new vibe for me.
We got to his place and sure enough he starts to get handsy. We make out for a while but i just can't get into it. So i push away slightly and tell him I'm not really in the mood and would rather take a nap. He smiles and kisses me lightly and tells me not to worry. He tucks me into bed and i fell asleep almost instantly.
Its probably not a big deal to anyone else, but to me it meant so much. He didn't pout, didn't get upset, didnt even ask why (although it was probably pretty obvious with my stuffed up nose). Its those small things that really make me fall in love with him and make me want to choke on his dick.
Edit: i've been reading nearly all the comments and the ones that stand out the most are thise that are saying how ssad it is to praise men for doing the bare minimum, and i understand why this is upsetting. Its behavior that should be expected, like being a big boy and understanding and not being a dick about a simple 'no'.
To me, its a big deal because previous partners have not been so kind. Both male and female. I've had a female partner (fwb) who would leave if i declined sex and go fuck someone else. I've had male fwb who would spam with with texts annoying thr hell out of me.
So let me make this clear, to me this is big, i have someone who is mature and i sure as hell will celebrate it. And, this is not a strictly heterosexual thing and to think so is really narrow minded.
