I'm a bit shaken after what my gf did

Oct 20, 2025

cuipingcheng

So me (21f) and my gf (21f) were fooling around and she started giving me a hickey on my neck. But she used a lot more force than usual and it hurt. It was uncomfortable and after a few seconds I said it hurts. I repeated a few times while showing more discomfort each time. Then I told her to stop. She didn't. I repeated a few times. She didn't listen. It was so uncomfortable and hurting and I couldn't move, because she was holding me with her weight. I started panicking, trying to move. I was almost ready to hit her. That's when she stopped.

It left me with a huge bruise that is uncomfortable and hurts. It will be almost impossible to hide it and we had agreed to do it so that these are not too visible. And it scared me. She's never done anything like this before. She always listens to me. Idk why she did this.

Should I confront her about it?

Top Comments:

Should you confront her? Yes. She crossed a clearly communicated boundary. You should confront her using that phrasing and see what she says. If she makes excuses that's a huge red flag.

That's not a safe relationship. She's 21 so maybe she thinks she's being sexy and intense by not taking no for an answer. But ask yourself… if you did this to her and she was panicking and asking you to stop multiple times and couldn't get you off her because of your body weight, what would you call that?

first of all this is really a terrifying red flag and my first instinct is to tell you to run away from this woman as fast as u possibly can. how long have you been with her? and has she done anything like this before? have u had other negative/bad/scary experiences with her?

If she can't listen to you in those situations, she's not the right one

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