psa for guys: when a girl says she’s about to cum you have to KEEP doing exactly what you’re doing
nothing frustrates me more than when im about to orgasm and the guy starts jackhammering or slowing down to a stop or worse, ending penetration altogether to suck my clit. when the latter happened to me i actually yelled at him.
It's almost like they automatically think they need to stall my orgasm like we stall theirs. if that's not it, why do you guys do that? thoughts?
edit: whoa this kinda blew up didn't it?
here's what i've learned from the comments: saying "i'm gonna cum" is hot and makes men cum so they try to avoid it so they don't ruin it for us and end up ruining it anyway. so it's best to just say don't stop or not say anything at all, or give clear instructions
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When I was younger I'd hear someone say they were about to cum and my lizard brain would take over with the mentality of "if wat i do is good, more of wat i doing = gooder" or some stupid shit along those lines and I'd start going faster/deeper/etc. and fuck it up.
Instead of just announcing that I'm going to orgasm, I tell him not to stop or to keep doing what he's doing. You gotta communicate what exactly you need. Everyone is different. Edit: if literally saying that you need them to continue doing exactly what they're doing still ends up with them switching it up and ruining/preventing your orgasm, have a conversation about it when you're not having sex (not you vs them, but you and them vs the communication issue). It can be hard not to be impulsive/instinctive in the moment, but if they can get it through their heads without sex distracting them from what you're saying they'll probably have an easier time applying it in bed.
"Just like that" "right there" "don't stop" usually what I go with as opposed to saying I'm gonna cum
See i dont know why but whenever i say any of those things my bf immediately thinks "must change literally everything right now"😭
