Cunnilingus — also known as oral-vulva or oral-vaginal sex — can be incredibly pleasurable to receive. But it can also be incredibly pleasurable for the giver, too, so long as they feel both comfortable and confident.

Here to build comfort and confidence in your oral sex skills is this cunnilingus crib sheet. Scroll down for everything vulva owners want you to know about going down.

What is cunnilingus?

Put simply, cunnilingus is oral sex performed on a vulva and/or vagina. It can involve any combination of mouth and tongue on the vulva and/or vagina — sucking, licking, flicking, nibbling, biting, and more.

Common nicknames include "eating out," "licking the bean," and "3rd base."

How to give cunnilingus

Getting things started

Pre-play is important. Start with kisses on the neck or lips, then work down the body — ears, fingers, nipples, navel, stomach, and thighs. Take three times longer than you think to reach the vulva.

Positions

Missionary oral is popular. Use pillows to reduce neck strain. Other options include facesitting and 69. Comfort is key.

Clothing

Play through underwear or ask consent before removing it. Teasing can build arousal.

Verbal appreciation

Many vulva owners feel insecure. Complimenting appearance, scent, and taste can build confidence.

Tongue techniques

• Up and down strokes
• Clockwise or counterclockwise circles
• Side-to-side movement
• Pulsating in one spot
• Wrapping lips around the clit with light suction

Not everyone enjoys direct stimulation; start slow.

Teeth

Use lips and tongue to cover your teeth. They're less of an issue than you think.

Hands

Use them to stimulate nipples, penetrate, or hold hips. Fingers can also reach the G-spot.

Eye contact and noise

Looking up can increase intimacy. Moans, slurping, and suction sounds add to sensation.

Adding toys

Vibrators, dildos, and butt plugs can enhance play.

Reading cues

Watch breathing, hip movement, and hands. Ask questions like "Does this feel good?"

How long?

It often takes 20–45 minutes for orgasm. Don't overextend yourself — switch it up if needed.

During menstruation

Comfort levels vary. STIs can spread through blood, so check in first.

Risks and safety

STIs like chlamydia, gonorrhea, herpes, HIV, and HPV can be transmitted during oral sex. Use dental dams or cut condoms/gloves as barriers. Pregnancy is not a risk.

FAQs

What do vulvas look like?

All are different — tulips, tissue paper, clams, etc.

Taste and smell?

Varies with cycle, diet, hydration, and more. Normal scents are musky or salty; foul smells may indicate infection.

Where is the clit?

At the top of the inner labia seam, extending internally.

Should you write the alphabet?

No. Most prefer consistent touch instead of constant variation.

What if hair gets in your mouth?

Just pause, remove it, and continue. It's normal.

Conclusion

Cunnilingus can bring intimacy and fun into the bedroom. With communication, patience, and creativity, both partners can enjoy the experience fully.