Do I sleep with a terminal married friend

Oct 22, 2025

cuipingcheng

Me F42 have been decades long friend with M48. We were never close, just hung around in same circles when younger and stayed in touch through socials, in fact I haven't seen him physically for over 10 years.

Recently I learned he was terminally ill and I reached out to him to offer my sympathy. We got chatting and he admitted he would have liked to have dated me back in the day but timings for us never worked out.

He's now married and I am recently single. He told me he had not had sex with his wife for 3 years and they are basically co-existing. I do not know his wife. We live in different states. He calls me every day and we reminisce and talk about what we have done in our lives but earlier this week during an emotional moment he asked me if I would sleep with him. Essentially fulfil his dying wish.

There is definitely a connection between us and I think I actually want to go ahead and sleep with him and also I do think he is entitled to be selfish and think only about himself, I mean, what else has he got left.

I know I'm getting too invested and this isn't going to be just about sex, I guess I need to prepare myself for what's coming.

Top Comments:

I'll say this as someone whose husband (30M) died last month from brain cancer. If he's legit sick, and the wife is cool with it - then do it soon. You don't have months to sit on this, the libido decreases so damn fast after treatment.

I'm sorry for your loss, there is unfortunately no more treatment for him. He is preparing his end of life. Even if he cannot be physically intimate then i will just lay there with him in comfort. I hope you are doing ok.

You have already decided you are going to do it. You need to tell his wife. No matter if they have a dead bedroom or not I'm sure the wife is not ok with her husband cheating on her. He also could be lying just to have sex with someone else before he dies. You don't even know that you are the only one he's saying these things too. He'll be dead, he won't have to deal with the consequences. His wife is still a person with feelings and her husband, possibly father of her children is dying. Be a good person and ask her first.

I'd say make sure he is actually dying first. Then run it by his wife

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