Had Sex With My Friend

Oct 15, 2025

cuipingcheng

I [18F] am a lesbian but I have been curious what it feels like to have a dick in me.

I have a very close best friend [18M]. I told him I trusted him and asked if he could put his penis in me so I could see what its like.

I was nervous but he put it in slowly and gently. When it was in I told him that we can have sex if he wants since he's already in me and that I want to see what its like. So he had sex with me. He was very sweet (kissing my lips and boobs and neck, telling me I'm beautiful, gently playing with my boobs, brushing my hair, holding me, telling me I feel so good, etc) which I appreciated a lot.

But while I didn't hate it, I thought the sex still felt a little weird. I loved how he treated me during it and I had fun but I learned straight sex isn't for me.

We cuddled for a while after and we started talking about the sex. He told me that it felt great and asked what I thought. I was honest. I told him that I was really happy I got to experience it with him, that I loved how sweet he was to me during it, I thanked him for helping me experiment and being someone I can trust, and that the sex was good and a lot of fun but that straight sex isn't for me. He said he was glad my experience was good, he's flaterred I trust him this much, that he was glad he got to experience it with me too, and that he's happy I found out what I thought of straight sex. I then told him that I'm still down to keep cuddling naked and kissing for the night and then after that I'll stick with girls. So we ended up cuddling and kissing for a while until we fell asleep. In the morning he was very respectful. We woke up spooning. He cuddled like that for a few minutes and then we got up and got dressed and he didn't make any attempt to have sex with me again.

That happened 2 weeks ago. I was talking to my (a different) friend and told her about my experience with him. She kept insisting that I must have hurt his feelings by telling him straight sex wasn't for me after and that it was rude to say that and that I led him on. I've hungout with and talked to him since though and he has acted the same as usual.

Have you had a similar event occur? Is my friend right that I may have hurt his feelings or led him on?

Top Comments:

Well done on communicating so well, both of you! You handled the situation very well. Your other friend can't know how your first friend feels!

You had an experiment and you were totally upfront about why you were doing that. Sounds like he had fun but knew what the score was. Saying that people do catch feelings sometimes after having sex so just be a little careful for a bit.

The key is that you were open and honest from beginning to end. Even if he did catch feelings, it's much easier to let them go. You didn't lead him on, leading him on is saying your straight and like him, THEN telling him straight sex isn't for you. I think what you did was appropriate.

My lesbian friend asked the same thing of me. It only happened once and believe me I am totally cool with it. Life goes on.