My friend can't orgasm- should I buy her a vibrator?

My friend can't orgasm- should I buy her a vibrator?

Dec 18, 2023

Yuqin Hu

Chances are, you and your friends chat about all sorts of things. While most of the convo revolves around food (at least that's how it is with me), there's usually a moment to dive into other tantalizing topics. Like sex. Whether you have a shared sexual past or completely different experiences, your friends are the perfect people to discuss it with.

If you're accustomed to having frank, open discussions about sex, you may know someone who struggles to climax during sexual activity, or who can't climax at all. As a friend, there are a variety of ways you can support them. Perhaps they want your listening ear or guidance, or maybe they desire nothing at all - or you could take it a step further. If your friend has difficulty reaching orgasm...should you gift them to a vibrator?

Just so you know, I've been there and done that. More than once, actually. Vibrators can be great gifts in some situations. A friend of mine who struggles with orgasms mentioned wanting to try one, but was too shy to purchase it. That's where I stepped in. However, giving a vibrator as a gift isn't always the best idea - it depends on your friend and your dynamic. Keep these tips in mind:

How candid has your friend been with you?

Consider how your friend has presented the issue - has she been straightforward about her struggles with reaching orgasm, or have you had to pry it out of her? As someone who is comfortable discussing sex, I understand how easy it is to accidentally push someone or make them feel uncomfortable while trying to be helpful. Take into account how honest your friend has been and her general attitude towards personal matters. Is she open or does she become self-conscious when discussing personal topics? Purchasing a vibrator for someone can be amusing and playful, but it can also be intimate and intense, so it's important to have a strong friendship before taking that step.

Is she up for trying out some fresh experiences?

Some folks don't experience orgasms and are perfectly content with that. One of my pals was still in the "exploration phase" when I bought her a personal messenger - just curious to see if anything would happen. Now, she's happily unbothered by it, so if I kept pushing her to use a vibrator with the goal of achieving orgasm, it would be too forceful and a tad overbearing. If your friend is satisfied with their sex life and sexual identity, it's probably best to let it be - but if they express a desire to experiment, it might be nice to grab one for them.

 

Has she expressed interest in a vibrator?

If you're a fan of vibrators, it can be difficult to understand that some people may not share the same enthusiasm. While I would be thrilled if mine could kiss me back, others may find them too intimidating or strange. As tempting as it may be to introduce your friend to the joys of vibrators, remember that giving one to her may make her feel obligated to use and enjoy it, which could potentially make her uncomfortable. To avoid any discomfort, try discussing the idea of using a vibrator with her first and see how she responds.

Is this regarding assisting her?

The ultimate question — what it all comes down to — is whether or not this is helping her. While being the sassy friend who makes a big statement is fun, it shouldn't come at the cost of making your friend uncomfortable and indebted to you. If you know she wants a vibrator and you're happy to give it to her, that's great, just remember that she may not try it, may not like it, or may not orgasm. Don't force anything on her just to prove a point about sex positivity, let her make her own choices.

Sometimes, gifting a friend a vibrator can be a perfect choice. I was lucky to have two friends join me when I bought my first one, taking away the awkwardness. I've even bought vibrators for other friends, some who had immediate success and others who were still okay with it even if they didn't experience the same result. However, it's important to consider your friend's personality and your relationship with them before making this decision. If you think it will be beneficial and they are open to it, then go ahead and give them the vibe!

If you are confused about which vibrator to give your friend, here are 8 vibrators for your reference.

Rose Toy with Thrusting Dildo - $42.99

Rose Toy with Thrusting Dildo
Wearable Bluetooth Tadpole Couple Vibrator - $50.99

Wearable Bluetooth Tadpole Couple Vibrator
APP Remote Control Panties Vibrator - $39.99

APP Remote Control Panties Vibrator
Klara - Licking & Sucking Rose Vibrator - $56.99

Klara - 2 in 1 Licking & Sucking Vacuum Pump Rose Vibrator
Rose Lover Sucking Vibrator - $65.99

Rose Lover Sucking Vibrator
Sucker & Tongue Licking Clitoral Vibrator - $25.99

2In1 Nipple Sucker & Tongue Licking Clitoral Vibrator
Robin - Clit Sucker & Vibrating Egg  Vibrator - $26.99

Robin - Clit Sucker & Vibrating Egg  Vibrator
Black Thrusting Dildo with Vibrating and Swing Rotating - $56.99

 4 in 1 Wireless Black Thrusting Dildo with Vibrating and Swing Rotating

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