I rejected my(23M) gf(21F) due to her smelling bad, she didn’t take it

I rejected my(23M) gf(21F) due to her smelling bad, she didn’t take it well…

Oct 23, 2025

ZhouJordan

2 days ago my girlfriend initiated sex with me, we started kissing, touching each other etc. We began to undress and I felt a very intense smell coming from her. I felt a bit grossed out, my boner went away and I didn't feel horny anymore. I transitioned to giving her a massage and I told her I didn't feel right.

I later told her in the most kind way I could that she wasn't smelling the best. I understand that it's a very sensitive topic but it's a recurring issue and I felt like I had to say something so we could try to solve it. I'm a shower every day kind of guy. My gf on the other hand can go 2-3 days in between showers, even if she has been sweating. She seemed to understand and we had a good time later.

Today she lashed out at me about something unrelated, I sensed that there was something else bother her and she told me she was upset because I had told her she smelled. I don't know how to talk about this since it seems to be very sensitive.

Top Comments:

You know what else is sensitive? Our noses. If she showers more often, it solves the problem. I can't see anything you did wrong. It's an issue, you have to address it. You approached it with thoughtfulness and compassion like you always should with your partner. Her feelings are hurt and she is embarrassed but the fact remains…she needs to wash her ass more often. Continue to try to be sensitive to her feelings but don't back down from the truth. Her poor hygiene is affecting your sex life amongst other things.

It's not about showering. Showering everyday is horrible if you're washing your hair every time. Washing your body every day is a must, though. She might also have an underlying issues like bad BO or something

Hair doesn't just start to reek after 2-3 days. This is clearly a body odor or genital hygiene issue.

3 days no shower and expecting someone to wanna put their tongue near you is absolutely diabolical

Hygiene