My mom is obsessed with my sex life and it makes me feel uncomfortable

Oct 23, 2025

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About a month ago, my mom found out that I (24F) started dating someone and lost my virginity. That news was devastating to her, because I said that I'm not planning on marrying him for now. She expected me to wait until marriage. She was mad at me, because I kept our relationship at secret from her for a few months. After that, she became somewhat mentally unstable and cried every day. She got suicidal and almost got into a car crash. She started crossing my boundaries and kept discussing sex with me. She kept giving me advices about sex, including positions, overanalysing my behaviour. Also, she would constantly ask about explicit details of sex between me and my partner.

When I was on a trip with my friend, I've sent her a photo of the two of us. She asked to film a long video with her and when I refused to do it, she snapped at me. She kept spamming me with video calls and asking me if I'm with my bf, and that I probably photoshopped that photo with my friend.

When I tell her that I don't want to talk about my personal life with her, she doesn't listen. She won't stop talking until she's said everything.

I feel like she's weirdly obsessed over my vagina and my sex life. Before I started dating, she would never let me use tampons or menstrual cups, and would get really mad at me for bringing it up.

Around 2 weeks ago, I broke up with my bf. Yesterday, she said that she feels betrayed, because I didn't tell her that I started dating someone right away. Out of nowhere she started saying that hormones at my age are probably high and that I should buy myself sex toys and watch porn. She started explaining what these things are to me, as if I don't know already at my age. Then she started sharing very explicit details about her friends' sex life that I didn't ask about. When I told her that I don't want to talk about it, she didn't stop until I started yelling at her. That makes me feel so disgusted at myself. I don't think I can have sex or touch myself anymore. My mom's words come to my mind and I feel disgusted about doing that. Her attitude ruins my self-esteem, sexuality and self-image

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Your mom sounds unhinged. And by that, I mean, mentally unwell. I am not sure how you can find a solution with someone who is so unwell, if she is not willing to go to therapy and work on herself and respect your boundaries. In which case, I also recommend no contact. If you really can't do that, then you need to be very very strict with your boundaries. Like, minimal contact, no hanging out, if she calls you and starts going on a rant about inappropriate things, you hang up the phone. There's also the factor that you're internalizing her words and feeling shame yourself. That's not cool. You deserve to have a happy healthy relationship to sex. Another reason to go no contact. And/or get yourself a therapist too.

Your mom sounds deranged. She needs some help. This is none of her business

If it is affecting your views on sex, how you feel and the way you think - I would highly recommend speaking to a therapist if you are able to. You shouldn't have to suffer in silence about it. In regards to your mom, it is clear that she doesn't respect boundaries. From what you've written, it sounds like she is projecting and needs to go to therapy herself. If she continues to break boundaries and not listen to you, you might need to consider limiting your conversations with her or putting in some distance. Anything you decide doesn't have to be a permanent thing, but it's important that you look after yourself first.

Is it possible to go no contact? Your sex life is none of her business and she's bulldozing several boundaries. I have had similar relationships with family and the only thing that works is to clearly say 'that's none of your business' over and over until they let it go or I block them. If someone doesn't respect your boundaries you don't need them in your life.

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My mom is obsessed with my sex life and it makes me feel uncomfortable

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