Cried during 1st post-divorce sexy times

Oct 08, 2025

ZhouJordan

So my marriage ended recently--9 year relationship, 5 year marriage (39, M). My ex-wife started seeing someone right after she told me she wanted us to split (best for both of us). Our relationship was not terrible, just not good and the sex was non-existent (just incompatible I think, she wanted to do it, but I just had trouble getting into it.

Now a few months post divorce I've been seeing someone for the first time.

Things were going great the first time she spent the night last week and I was really connecting with her and enjoying myself physically as we were getting sexual. I feel like I've never had that with any of my past sexual partners (like 10 give or take). Then I just started to cry. I never understood why people value sex so much, then I was starting to "get it" with her. I feel like I've mostly just had awful and bad sexual experiences... didn't know that before. She was very sweet about me crying (it was before either of us came), but I felt a little bad.

I guess I'm partly just sharing, but has anyone else had this happen and know how to like not cry next time?

TL:DR: I cried during sex last week (happy tears I think, I don't cry much generally), and want to not have that happen again.

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I tell my kids crying is just when you have too much feeling - sometimes it's too much sadness, anger, stress, fear....but also happiness and love. Crying isn't good or bad, it just means you are so full of feeling something that's how you've got to get it out sometimes. So if it does happen again, I hope you remember this and don't feel bad about it.

I never cry. Like, never cried during the whole divorce shitholery, haven't cried at other pivotal times... but, I did go on an unexpected cry bender the first time I had sex with someone post-divorce. (Possibly worth mentioning: Divorce was my move, and I was not upset about that piece of things at all.) And, worse, it was like "date 1.5" (I'd just met him that morning for a "date zero," then he came to my house that night for dinner) and he brought tequila, so it was not just a cute little sniff-sniff-tear, it was, like UGLY cry. While naked. Yeah... I think it's to be expected. It's like how people don't generally have panic attacks IN the moment, when they get to a place of feeling safe, the panic attack hits them "out of nowhere." Or like kids with ADHD can be great all day at school, and then get home to a safe place and just let all that out.

I was married for 25 years. When it ended I made a promise to myself that I would never again compromise my sexual needs. And I searched. And I found him. We had five nights together. The last one in a hotel. We knew it was goodbye afterwards. And it was off the hook. In retrospect, I loved him already. In that night we gave each other all of ourselves. Nothing held back. I'd live that night over and over again if I could. Eventually, in the wee hours of the morning, I had to go. It was so hard. I sat in my car in the parking lot and wept. Shaking. Drenched. Heartbroken. Wanting. Knowing what was possible in a way I could never again unknow. Years later we have built a life together that I couldn't imagine being so beautiful. But that night will always linger. The authentic tears. The knowing someone so completely fully in the sexual space. He still makes me cry. With love. With growth. With pleasure. With expansiveness. So, yes. All of you. Feel it. Lean in. Know what is possible.

Cried after sex many times with my BF now. I ended a 20-year emotionally abusive marriage. My BF has also cried after sex many times and we both lean in to it because we are both aware of the traumas we carry and we know how to hold space for each other. Nothing wrong with it :)

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Cried during 1st post-divorce sexy times

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