Sort answer: nah let him sleep but have a conversation about it tomorrow so it's agreed upon for next time this comes up. One thing that can be frustrating when you're the one wishing the other partner would initiate more, is when they primarily attempt to initiate at inopportune times. Depending on how often it happens and how frustrated he is about it, he could come away feeling like you are strategically initiating at times when you know that he's more likely to turn you down, so you can say that you've been initiating more, but without having to follow through. To be clear, this mindset is horrible and I don't think you should bend over backwards to accommodate it. Nor am I suggesting that you're actually doing that here. However if it's something you guys are working on together as a couple in a healthy way, it's probably worth at least understanding that this line of reasoning can happen, often involuntarily, and it could be good to avoid it in order to avoid potentially taking a step backwards in terms of your progress on this as a couple.

If you don't already know if you should wake him the answer is don't. If you want to know if you can in the future then you should talk to him tomorrow.

That's a question to be pre-answered for next time. This is the main/only thing my wife and I argue about - the intersection of sleep and sex. Either I should have woken her and didn't; or, more likely, I woke her and she's mad about it… I've tried to recommend a "hair tie" in a special place or some other "Bat signal" for "wake me up ya filthy animal!!", but no luck so far. Good luck to you!!

My partner (35F) and I (43M) have an agreement she can wake me up for sex, but I can't wake her. I can masturbate beside her, but she doesn't want to next to me and would prefer privacy. These are important things to talk about. For us it has to do with feelings of rejection so we worked out what feels best for us.