I went to my new boyfriend’s house Friday night expecting to have sex with for the first time. But he said no for the most wonderful reason.
I'm (25F) already crazy about him (31M), but this made me fall even harder.
We've been dating since New Years. He was traveling all week and we had some very flirty texts going back and forth while he was gone. He asked me to come over for a movie night Friday and I knew what that meant. Legs shaved, hair done, cute undies, I was so ready to take that next step with him.
After the movie we were making out on the couch, and in the moment, I said, "Are you going to take me upstairs?" And he paused and shyly said, "Is it okay if I say no?" I told him of course it was okay, but, if he wanted to share, I was curious why?
He said "Well we haven't really talked about it yet. I didn't know if you were ready to take that step, by now that I do, maybe we could do that now?"
We spent the next three hours snuggling and discussing birth control, contraceptives, sexual health (if we were both clean), past sexual partners, boundaries, kinks, fantasies, anything at all! It was absolutely perfect. I felt so close to him, and it was fun and sweet and sexy and I wasn't upset at all we didn't do it that night. I ended up staying the night with him, before we went all the way, which was a first for me but not as weird as I thought!
Then last night we sealed the deal 😏 No questions or worries or miscommunications, it was one of the most perfect nights ever.
Consider doing this next time you are ready to have sex with someone for the first time! It made the whole experience so much more incredible and emotional. I'm still absolutely glowing thinking about it 🥰
